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Necole Bitchie On Making Dreams a Reality

Via Huffington Post


Every day there is someone out there that is in a situation that they don’t want to be in. When I say that, I mean they are working a job and not a career. They are paying the bills and not finding personal and/or professional fulfillment of any kind.

We end up becoming slaves to these material things that we will outlast — cars, jewelry, purses, shoes or whatever other material items that reflect the lifestyle we want to live. This job might be paying you the money to support this lifestyle, but is it what you truly want to be doing?

Born on the eastern shore of Maryland in a small town called Cambridge — this is the woman that we know as Necole Bitchie. She is a great inspiration not only to women, but to us all. Her story is filled with sacrifice in exchange for the journey and adventure of discovering herself and her own destiny. Knowing yourself is important, right?

Necole has soared to become one of the most famous and recognizable bloggers out there. Her name, also her brand, has become synonymous with celebrity gossip that unlike with most bloggers is verified news. That’s probably the reason why when you read her stuff — it doesn’t have that manufactured feel to it, because it isn’t.

Her brand doesn’t stop there; soon you can expect to see a lifestyle brand from the young blogger/entrepreneur.

Necole and I conversed about the sacrifices she made to be the woman she is today.

Thank you for taking the time out to talk to me today, Necole. I truly appreciate

I appreciate it as well, Bryan. Thank you.

So, where are you originally from Necole?

I grew up in a very small town on the eastern shore of Maryland called Cambridge.

What are some of your most important childhood memories that led you to being the woman that you are today?

My mother worked so hard, so I spend a lot of time with my grandmother. She was the first business owner that I ever knew. My grandmother owned a barber shop and she

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The Land Of Familiar: Why I Left New York

It was about 5:40pm, the movers had just left with all of my things and my car was already half way across the country via a shipping service I had found on the internet a few days before.  At this point I didn’t even know if the shipping company was legit or if I was ever going to see my car again. I just knew that I had to get everything out of my sight and across the country or I would change my mind…and that wasn’t an option.

There I was standing in Brooklyn in my empty apartment, starring at the skyline of downtown New York and I didn’t know whether to cry, be sad, be happy, call someone, write in my journal. I had no idea what to do. All I knew was that, in 4 hours I would be headed to the airport to catch a red eye to LA and I was terrified.  But why? I had moved more than a few times in my life but this time was scary.

Rewind back to 2004

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Descend The Hill Or Take The Leap?

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A view from Malibu. 9.3.12, while thinking of a quote by Lauryn Hill:

Let’s not be mediocre in our greatness! We are all trying to get to this next level without the next level finding us. Life is like peaks and valleys. Some people explain that as good times, bad times. But I actually think its learning, mastership, learning, mastership or study, mastership, study, mastership. I went form the top of one mountain, I’ve mastered something and people appreciated it. Once you’ve been on top on that mountain, you have to move or you’ll stay stuck on one hill, one mountain. God’s intention is that we study and master a bunch of things. So here I am descending this hill and everybody is like “Where are you going, we’re suppose to be on top of the hill?” But it’s an exciting time, definitely an exciting time for me because I’m at the foot of another hill.

Sometimes when we achieve a certain level of success, we are scared to try something new or embark on a new journey because we are afraid. People have seen you succeed and you don’t want them to see you fail but If you never try, you have failed already. If we face our fears, it is then that we will realize our true potential. We have to always remember that sometimes you have to descend one hill, in order to climb to the top of another. It’s all a part of evolving.

Thanks Ms. Hill

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Be Still.

When I woke up this morning, there was an uncanny stillness.  Like the world had stopped and I was the only one it it. Living in a condo building in the NJ/NYC area, I’ve gotten use to kids stomping, dogs barking and the occasional siren of sorts, so in that moment, the moment of complete stillness, I was finally able to listen to the inner voice in me.

Uninterrupted.

That moment brought clarity on every situation in my life that I may have been confused about. My dreams. My goals. My desires.

I encourage others to take at least 10 minutes to an hour of each day to find your center. Be still. Quiet the mind and just listen. 

Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.- Steve Jobs

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Ciara and her tomboy swag at Amnesia!
Peep the boots

Ciara and her tomboy swag at Amnesia!

Peep the boots

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Dating Down…

This morning, I caught a clip of a recent episode of Good Afternoon America that offered good food for thought.  The topic was ‘Dating Down: Would you date a man that makes less than you’? and of course with  ‘No Scrubs’ being one of TLC’s biggest hits, they had Chilli on as a guest.

Chilli’s stance was that it’s hard for her to ‘date down’ because she loves to be treated like a princess:

I’m very picky, I guess you want to call it that. Here’s my issue with ‘dating down’ – it sounds bad, it makes us seem shallow — the problem with dating down[…]I think that for a female, no matter how much money you make or not, every woman wants to feel like a princess, you know. I don’t look for a guy to pay my bills, I can pay my own bills.  I can do a lot of things for myself. Thank God I’ve been blessed. But I would love to go on a date with a guy and he pays for it or we go on a trip together and — if I have to pay half then I need to go on that trip with my girlfriend, not a dude. I’m just saying.

And I totally understand where she is coming from.  We all have had fantasies of being whisked away to an exotic island with the man of our dreams, but I have to say this:

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A Lesson On Being Selfless..

Last weekend, I was sitting in the car with a friend and she said, ‘You know, Necole, you are so selfless. This whole weekend should have been about you, but you went over and beyond to make sure that it was about your friends and the people around you. Do you know how much more you will be blessed’.

And I thanked her but told her that it wasn’t always like that for me. I do admit, I spent a huge part of my life being very selfish. I didn’t know any better. I was an only child.  I didn’t learn to look out for other people or take other people’s feelings in to consideration while growing up.

Just recently, while reading the Alchemist, it made me remember my past life, before I started challenging my fear. I lived a very mundane life with a set routine. I would go to work 9-5, get off work, go to school, party with my friends every Friday and Saturday, rest on Sunday and get up on Monday and do it all over again. I was living a simple life, and as part of my daily routine, I would call my mother every day during lunch break to catch her up on what was going on in my life.  In all honesty, I spent at least half of the time on the phone with my mom, complaining about things like school, my job and plenty of senseless things that mattered to me at the time but looking back, should have been the least of my concerns. But nevertheless, it was all a part of my routine and it made me feel better.

One day, before my lunch break, I was sitting at my desk and I received a text from a friend. It read, ‘I am so sorry to hear about your mom. They announced in Church last Sunday that she only had two weeks to live’.

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When you are in the entertainment industry, sometimes your birthday can become a huge spectacle, complete with parties in at least 3 cities, talent fees and partying with folks you really don’t know like that. This year, I decided to really make my birthday about a bonding moment with some of my closest friends. It was a total girl’s night complete with balloons, lots of liquor and even a surprise stripper (who was a little strange and a bit out of shape. Ha!) Throughout the night, we took the time to pick cards from a self-made ‘table topics’ game which asked personal and deep questions about love and life which helped us learn so much more about each other. The memories we created from that night and the entire weekend were absolutely priceless and will never be forgotten.

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One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was trying to live up to the expectations that other’s had of me instead of doing what was best for me. Guard your dreams. Don’t ever let anyone come and hi-jack your dream. It is yours, not theirs. Always follow your heart and trust where it leads you.  You may not get it right every single time but despite the fear and pain, you will have memories that will make you smile every once in a while.

One of the biggest mistakes I’ve ever made was trying to live up to the expectations that other’s had of me instead of doing what was best for me. Guard your dreams. Don’t ever let anyone come and hi-jack your dream. It is yours, not theirs. Always follow your heart and trust where it leads you.  You may not get it right every single time but despite the fear and pain, you will have memories that will make you smile every once in a while.

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A Lesson About The ‘Casting Couch’

If I had a penny for every time a young girl emailed, tweeted, facebook’d or sent a message through tumblr asking me for guidance in their journey of accomplishing their dreams, I’d be rich.  There’s so many young faces out there, wanting that big break and willing to do whatever it takes to get it. They are just looking for that validation from someone who has ‘done it’ to let them know that it will be okay.

But as much as I would like to encourage each person to be willing to sacrifice comfort, complacency, a steady paycheck, good benefits and a social life to go hard for what they want out of life, I do have to warn them that some people that they may meet along the way may not have their best intentions at heart.  You will meet people that can sense ‘desperation’ and vulnerability and they will take advantage of that.

I never ever told this story before (not even to my closest friends) but I feel the need to share it now. I always conveniently skip this part of the story when I talk about my journey but somewhere some girl needs to hear it.

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Lala’s Birthday Brunch x X-Rated Fusion Liqueur In Photos 6.29.12

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